The Top 3 Reasons We Fall in Love

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Date: 2021/07/08 18:38:55

Hani Henry, associate professor of psychology at AUC's Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology, says that Robert Sternbergs psychological theory addresses the most common reasons we fall in love, which are: passion, intimacy, and commitment.


Falling in love for intimate reasons can be described as having a basic friendship; it lacks commitment and passion. Henry explained that intimacy isn't just about developing a close bond with someone. "Sometimes it can be self-serving. Everyone needs to feel loved, cared for, and respected. Women need to feel their femininity while men desire their masculinity.

A perfect example of intimacy captured is Adele's Hi. Adele contacts her ex boyfriend and reveals her feelings of heartbreak about the relationship in the song's chorus. She explains that many years have passed and she hasn't done much healing. He said that her lyrics were magical and could be used by anyone who wants to feel a connection with someone or have a long-term relationship.


The normal thing to do is fall in love due to strong feelings or desire. Passionate love can be developed from feelings that result in sexual attraction, romance and physical interest. Henry stated, "When someone you like is attracted to you by something that draws them to that person." "The attraction to someone is physical and there is a fascination about the hair and eyes as well as their bodies."

Infatuation can develop with someone you love if there is not intimacy and commitment. People feel attracted and soon develop lust. Some people are obsessed and see that person as a type of object. You can be with someone for years and don't feel there is commonality between you and that person," he said.


Total love comes from commitment. He said that people who are looking for commitment seek stability and a healthy relationship. "If people only seek commitment, they may lack sexual attraction and basic friendship interests."

Henry stated that today's young adults are more concerned about objects than they are about relationships. He explained, "The objectification results from consumerism." "The more consumerism a culture becomes the more people lose interest and commitments. Some youth are more interested than others in pleasing people they dont care for. So everything needs to be consumed, even relationships with people."

Love Outside the Triangular Theory

Sternberg's theory of love is universal. However, every person has their own reasons to fall in love. "Your reasons for falling in love don't necessarily have to be scientifically explained. Henry stated that some personal needs could include the fear of being alone or social peer pressure, fulfillment, or religious values.

attitude status in hindi may have some things to say about love but the love we choose is what defines us. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people are caught with a need that meets each dimension of the triangle and they can't give up on two because of the different needs they get. Love is very complex."
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